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Before Consent…a poem The stork story might be fun – but it disregards the importance of Mum. That women birth seems an aside, The truth of birth we^ like to hide, With a storkish euphemism, No real choice is given, No honour or celebration, Birth is an enduration* And so their power, women relent, And … More Before Consent…
(to the tune of Waltzing Matilda) Once a jolly woman sang aloud her own song, After eating from the knowledge tree, And she sang as she mused and waited ’til her baby birthed, My body, my baby, my choices are free Informed and Supported, informed and Supported My body, my baby, my choices are free … More Once a Jolly woman
You’re a seasoned Mother You’ve birthed before You did it well You know the score You know your body Your know your mind But third time ’round Here’s what you’ll find: You’ll be told it was just luck And to forget all you’ve inferred For anything can happen now, This is The Curse of The … More Curse of The Third
What is the difference between Support and Assistance? Do you know if you will meet resistance? Who is on your side and on your behalf can speak? Are you prepared if you end ‘up the creek’? Assistance is great, if you need it for sure. But without Support your prognosis is poor. In birthing … More Do you need Assistance or Support?
She danced with joy, and clapped her hands Delighted, hopeful, naive. She’s been told she can “be anything she wants” The glass ceiling was smashed A sexual revolution liberated women She can vote! Nothing stands in her way. Except. Except. Except. She is, however right to be hopeful. And to … More Safe. Dignified. Yes.
Fear: Forget Evidence And Rights.
When fear rules, we lose autonomy.
When fear controls our decisions, we forget evidence.
Understanding and compassion drive fear out. … More Fear for sale!
The language you use in your birth plan is as important as the decisions that back it up.
Many a well researched birth plan has been discarded because the language was passive.
Have you got an Active Birth Plan? … More The Language of Birth Plans
You feel like you have made an Informed Decision, you have agonised over your options, after first insisting that there HAD to be another option. Never one to accept the Status Quo, you ask – WHY? If someone tells you you HAVE TO or you SHOULD BE, this makes you ask – WHY? It can … More Why aren’t more people asking why?
Are you qualified to think that?