The Poem ‘want a positive birth? say please‘ was inspired by the frequent advice related to how to write a birth plan, that suggests you be polite, positive. And not adversarial. The scene is set: clearly birthing is Us vs Them. And there is no shortage of horror stories. The purpose of the birth plan, … More Diplomacy, politeness and the underlying threat
you must make informed decisions,you must provide consent and if you insist to plan it and communicate intent, then we really must insist, that the only way we’ll listen is if you make your wording sweet enough to glisten. so many give this strange advice, but only women must say please why is it … More want a positive birth? say please
From the eek to the agghh..the rule of thumb is: I listened to a podcast, The Best Plan is No Plan, which covered some ideas that I would not put into practise for my circumstance, but in other circumstances they may be just what is needed. As I listened, having been hooked by the (dubious) ‘best plan … More The Best Plan is No Plan…or is it?
No point in planning for your birth, no point, no point at all! You’ll only be disappointed when all your plans do fall. No point in lowering your expectations, which are far too high, Better to have none at all, and to not even try. Defeated from the very first, your dignity at the door, … More birthing? meh! whatever!
July 19th 2019 8pm AEST (a recording will be available afterwards in the free member area) The Trouble with Consent in Childbirth and How to Fix it Our insurance driven, medicalised maternity system is giving lip service to women’s rights in the form of ‘informed consent’. The trouble with this is that women are rarely … More The trouble with Consent: Webinar
We have a huge problem in our society. And it is not that women need time and support to ‘recover’ from birth. The problem is we have developed a culture of segregation: where babies and mothers are not immersed in the ‘every day’ where children are sent off to school and adults to work where … More Recovering from birth: Eve Syndrome
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updated March 13 2019 The Bellabirth philosophy is firmly entrenched in the KISS principle – Keep It Simple, Sister. But the reality is, to get to a simplified state of mind, one must first wade through a myriad of chaos. Birth and breastfeeding are biological processes (e.g. physical, hormonal)…left well enough…
LEAVE THE UMBILICAL CORD UNCLAMPED! and by that I mean Don’t Cut the Cord! It does not need to be tied off – with a clamp, shoelace, floss or crochet tie. I am deeply concerned that in 2019 it is still widely promoted by medically trained people that this is necessary. IT IS … More Before you give birth you need to know this
There once was a dentist, honest and bold Who felt their story was best told As The trouble with consent, Despite good intent, Means uncertainty in how things unfold This is a story about tooth extraction. It tells a tale of a woman’s visit to a dentist, and the dentist’s need to obtain ‘informed … More Dis-Consent
“The time has come,” the Doctor said, “To seek informed consent: blah blah risks–blah blah side effects your labour to augment I need your ‘informed consent’ now– sign here for this intent.” READ MORE: What happens when the last minute, is also the first minute? (there is another poem too…another pastiche)